It's Hard To Be Seen: Struggling with Fear and Shame Vlog

Hi, all. My name is Shay. I’m a licensed clinical social worker and a trauma therapist.
Welcome to my channel. Mindfulish.
Today, I wanted to share with you how hard it is for me to be seen (due to fear and shame).
Earlier this month, I met up with my good friend, Doctor Leila Contractor who’s an integrative psychiatrist.
And we wanted to do some blogging for our websites about what is integrative psychiatry and how that fits together with trauma therapy?

Wow. It was so difficult to be recorded.
Layla was totally in her element and made it a lot easier.
But I really had to go back to Gabor’s (Maté) teachings where he says when we’re triggered, it’s a gift, and it indicates where we still need to do work.
And I was noticing a lot of fear and shame.
Shame about how I look, and fear that I was going to mess it up.
Let’s just say that I received a lot of gifts that day.

So I ended up getting really sick and being in bed for days.
And I was able to really look at this fear and shame.
And use the tools that I know from doing therapy with others to really process through that fear and shame.

So I’ll be starting to post some of my videos, that Laila and I recorded, and I’ll be working on other videos for my website.
In my videos that I recorded earlier, I can see how afraid I am.
How small I’m trying to be and how brave I was to try anyway because of how passionate I am about my work and how much I want to help people.

How I Can Help With Fear and Shame

Unlocking Healing: How I Can Help You with Fear and Shame

Do you often feel the weight of fear or shame holding you back? Maybe it’s difficult for you to step into the light and be seen. If that resonates, know that you’re not alone—and there’s a path toward healing.

As someone who has personally experienced the transformational power of trauma therapy, I understand how deeply fear and shame can affect your life. These emotions often stem from early experiences that left a lasting imprint on your nervous system, shaping how you respond to the world today.

Turning Triggers into Gifts

Triggers often feel overwhelming, but what if they were actually clues to your healing journey? By exploring how fear and shame developed, you can begin to see your triggers as invitations to deeper self-awareness. Somatic therapy is one powerful approach that helps you tap into the wisdom of your body. Your body holds memories and emotions that your mind may not fully understand, but through somatic therapy, you can learn to release and integrate these experiences.

My Personal Journey

I know this process works because I’ve walked it myself. My own trauma therapy journey has been life-changing. While I’m still a work in progress (aren’t we all?), the shifts I’ve experienced have been profound. I no longer feel stuck in old patterns of fear and shame, and I know that healing is possible for you too.  I was able to do an interview for ShoutOutLA, National Geographic, and The Flow Space Magazine since I started this journey.   

The Power of Trauma Therapy

Whether you’re dealing with past trauma, anxiety, or simply the desire to live a fuller, more authentic life, trauma therapy can offer the tools you need. In addition to somatic therapy, I offer approaches such as EMDR, Brainspotting, and Interpersonal Neurobiology, all of which are designed to help you release old wounds and create space for new possibilities.

Reach Out for Support

If you’ve been hiding, afraid of being seen, or stuck in a cycle of fear and shame, I’m here to help. Together, we can work on healing those deep wounds and unlocking your full potential. Healing is a process, and it’s okay to take small steps forward. I’m here to walk that path with you, every step of the way.   To book a session use the button at the top of this page or email

Shay@overcomeanxietytrauma.com. Let’s start your journey toward healing today.