# Overcome Anxiety & Trauma with Shay

> Somatic Trauma Therapist in San Diego


## Posts

- [What is EMDR in San Diego ? Does It Really Work?](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/what-is-emdr-in-san-diego-does-it-work/):     What is EMDR Therapy in San Diego? Does EMDR Therapy in San Diego Really Work? There are a lot of trauma treatments out there and finding one that works can be confusing. So what is EMDR in San Diego? Does it Really Work?   With all the hype with “get feeling better quick solutions” for emotional distress on social media how do I know what to trust?   EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, which is pretty difficult to say.   I am going to stay with EMDR going forward. This is a type of psychotherapy, backed … Continued
- [It's Hard To Be Seen: Struggling with Fear and Shame Vlog](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/struggling-with-fear-and-shame/): Hi, all. My name is Shay. I’m a licensed clinical social worker and a trauma therapist. Today, I wanted to share with you how hard it is for me to be seen (due to fear and shame) and my experience creating a vlog. Earlier this month, I met up with my good friend, Doctor Leila Contractor who’s an integrative psychiatrist. And we wanted to do some blogging for our websites about what is integrative psychiatry and how that fits together with trauma therapy? Wow. It was so difficult to be recorded! Layla was totally in her element and made it a … Continued
- [Why Somatic Therapy for Trauma in San Diego? I Wasn't Abused.](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/why-trauma-therapy-i-wasnt-abused/): Often clients report a deep sense that something is wrong with them and they don’t know why. They are confused because they had a “good childhood” and no memory of abuse. However, they are unable to apply for the job, focus at work, feel safe in relationship, or feel safe in the world. Some clients don’t feel anything except numb. Trauma often manifests not only in the trauma events that scar us but also in the absence of what we needed.   As Gabor Maté notes, “Trauma is not what happens to you. Trauma is what happens inside you as a … Continued
- [Finding Your Trauma Therapist in San Diego](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/finding-your-trauma-therapist-in-san-diego/): Making the decision to address trauma in therapy can be absolutely terrifying. What is the next step after you have made that decision? The process of finding the right trauma therapist can feel overwhelming and may cause you to feel like giving up.  I get that this might feel overwhelming and cause some anxiety.   This guide is crafted to offer clarity and support as you take the first steps of finding the right trauma therapist in San Diego. Reflect on Your Needs for Somatic Trauma Therapy in San Diego: Before you start looking for a trauma therapist in San Diego, … Continued
- [I Launched My Anxiety and Trauma Therapy Website!](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/new-website/): Welcome to my website. I’m happy you are here! Whether you think you have experienced trauma and want to know more, or are ready to begin your healing journey, I’m glad that you have taken the first step. Trauma can be difficult to understand, and the path to healing is not always easy or well defined. But one thing that is certain: you don’t have to struggle alone. My name is Shay DuBois, a somatic trauma therapist in San Diego, CA with decades of experience in the fields of clinical social work and trauma-focused therapy.  I work with clients who have … Continued
- [When Your Body Pays the Price For Being Nice](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/when-your-body-pays-the-price-for-being-nice/): When Your Body Pays the Price for Being Nice: How People‑Pleasing, Fawn Trauma Responses, and Chronic Symptoms Connect When your body pays the price for being nice, somatic trauma therapy can help. You can be competent, kind, and successful—and still feel like your body is breaking down. The headaches. The gut issues. The jaw tension. The fatigue that never resolves. The flare‑ups that make you wonder if you’re imagining things. You’re not imagining it. For many people, chronic symptoms aren’t “mysteries.” They’re the body’s way of signaling a long‑running pattern: staying safe by staying agreeable. People‑pleasing isn’t just a habit. It … Continued
- [Fawn Trauma Response:  The Neuroscience of People-Pleasing](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/fawn-trauma-response-the-neuroscience-of-people-pleasing/): The Fawn Trauma Response: A Somatic, Neuroscience‑Based Guide for High‑Achieving Women In This Article What Is the Fawn Trauma Response? How the Fawn Trauma Response Becomes People‑Pleasing The Neuroscience Behind the Fawn Trauma Response How the Fawn Trauma Response Affects the Body Why Somatic Trauma Therapy Is Essential A Concierge Path to Fawn Recovery Therapy Options for California Residents Written by a California‑licensed somatic trauma therapist Introduction: When People‑Pleasing Is a Nervous System Pattern—not a Choice Many of the women I work with are accomplished, capable, and deeply responsible. They are leaders, caregivers, and high‑achievers who appear calm and competent on … Continued
- [This Year, I'm My Own Valentine](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/this-year-im-my-own-valentine/): When Your Body Says No: A Different Kind of Valentine to Yourself Valentines Day When You Are Exhausted Valentines Day can be a strange holiday when your nervous system is fried and your body is tired. The messages we get are usually about big romantic gestures, perfectly curated evenings, and being “on” and lovable and available. But what if, this year, the bravest Valentine you give is to yourself? I am a somatic trauma and anxiety therapist, and I also live with Lupus. I know what it is like to look like you are “doing great” on the outside while your … Continued
- [Stress, Sugar Cravings, and Survival](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/stress-sugar-cravings-and-survival/): Stress, Sugar Cravings, and Survival: A Somatic Trauma Perspective Introduction: If You Crave Sugar When You’re Stressed, You’re Not Broken I am going to be honest, this is the thing I struggled with all my life. When I was stressed I reached for candy. There was so much shame about “doing it again” so I am talking from experience. If you are like me and find yourself reaching for chocolate, cookies, or carbs every time stress or anxiety hits, this is not a failure of willpower. From a somatic trauma perspective, those sugar cravings are actually a survival response. “What we … Continued
- [Deck the Halls, Pass the Prozac](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/deck-the-halls-pass-the-prozac-holiday/): Deck the Halls, Pass the Prozac Understanding Holiday-Induced Stress Responses Holiday cheer? More like holiday fear! A staggering 38% of individuals report feeling increased stress during the festive season, according to the American Psychological Association. If you find yourself dodging family gatherings like they’re landmines, you’re not alone. Today my sister and I were laughing about needing to tell an adult cousin that you don’t “swipe right” on people you meet a family reunions.   This is the same reunion we were joking about needing to wear kevlar to.   Yes, it is not coincidence that I am a trauma therapist. … Continued
- [Somatic Psychedelic Therapy  Is it for You?](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/somatic-psychedelic-therapy-is-it-for-you/): Somatic Psychedelic Therapy vs. Traditional Somatic Therapy: Which Is Right for You? This weekend I am finishing up my Somatic Psychedelic Facilitator Certification training.   I thought it might be helpful to share why spending my time and money this way feels important for me as a therapist and how it benefits my clients. Understanding Somatic Psychedelic Therapy Imagine you’re stuck in a loop, reading the books, doing talk therapy but still feeling anxious, burned out, and disconnected. Now, what if I told you that somatic psychedelic therapy could help you break free from that cycle? This innovative approach combines the … Continued
- [Fawn Response to Trauma Quiz](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/fawn-response-to-trauma-quiz/):  Are You People‑Pleasing for Survival? A Fawn Response to Trauma Quiz for High‑Achieving Adults If you’re the one who keeps everything running—at work, at home, in your relationships—you might tell yourself you’re just “nice,” “easygoing,” or “the dependable one.” But for many high‑achieving, anxious, or trauma‑impacted people, that pattern isn’t just a personality trait. It’s often a fawn trauma response. What Is the Fawn Response? Most people have heard of fight, flight, and freeze as stress responses. The fawn response is less talked about, but just as important. Fawning is when your nervous system tries to keep you safe by: … Continued
- [People-Pleasing the Fawn Response Explained](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/people-pleasing-the-fawn-response-explained/): People-Pleasing the Fawn Response Explained Introduction Welcome to the wild world of the fawn response in adults! If you’ve ever found yourself bending over backward to keep others happy like a contortionist at a circus, you might be dealing with this sneaky little trauma response. The fawn trauma response is like that over-eager friend who just wants everyone to get along, often at their own expense. But why do we do this? Let’s take a closer look at why some folks have that habit of always wanting to please others. We’ll explore how this behavior can be tied to things that … Continued
- [Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/ketamine-assisted-psychotherapy/): Ketamine Assited Psychotherapy Clinical Mechanisms of Ketamine in Psychotherapy You feel like you’re stuck in a mental fog, where traditional therapies seem as effective as shouting into a void. You don’t want to be on medication for the rest of your life but talk therapy isn’t working. Now, picture a treatment that can lift that fog in a few treatments instead of months. Enter ketamine in therapy, the unexpected game changer of mental health. Ketamine therapy has provided new hope for those battling severe depression and anxiety. Unlike conventional antidepressants that take their sweet time to kick in—think weeks or even … Continued
- [Understanding the Urge of Giving Up](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/understanding-the-urge-of-giving-up/): Understanding the Urge of Giving Up The Psychological Mechanisms Behind the Urge to Quit When life throws curveballs, it’s all too easy to feel like giving up. Picture this: you’re juggling work, family, and personal goals, and suddenly, everything feels like it’s crashing down. In fact, a staggering 17.3 million adults in the U.S. experience a major depressive episode each year — that’s nearly one in twenty people! It’s no wonder so many of us find ourselves battling that nagging urge to throw in the towel. The Role of Stress and Anxiety Stress and anxiety are like uninvited guests at a … Continued
- [Adult Anxiety and its Roots In Childhood Neglect](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/adult-anxiety-and-its-roots-in-childhood-neglect/): Understanding Neglect: How Childhood Experiences Shape Adult Anxiety The Silent Impact of Childhood Neglect on Adult Anxiety Childhood neglect is like an invisible wound that doesn’t show external scars but silently reshapes how we navigate relationships, trust, and our own emotional landscape. For many adults, the roots of their hyper-independence and adult anxiety can be traced back to early experiences of emotional abandonment or psychological neglect. Quick Insight: Neglect by the Numbers In 2020, approximately 618,000 children were found to be victims of child abuse and neglect in the United States – a stark reminder of how prevalent these experiences are. … Continued
- [The Connection Between Nutrition & Mental Health: What You Need to Know](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/the-connection-between-nutrition-mental-health-what-you-need-to-know/): The Connection Between Nutrition & Mental Health: What You Need to Know By Lisa Jo Finstrom. MS, CNS, LDN, licensed board-certified clinical nutritionist As a nutritionist who regularly collaborates with therapists, I’ve seen firsthand how combining therapy with targeted nutrition can improve overall physical and mental well-being. While therapy helps process emotions and rewire thought patterns, nutrition supports the biochemical foundation of mental health—your brain chemistry, hormones, and gut health. Nutrition helps your brain function more effectively. Balancing Blood Sugar to Prevent Mood Crashes One of the first things I do with a new client is to evaluate them for sugar … Continued
- [The Link Between Childhood Trauma and Adult Fawning Behavior](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/understanding-neglect-how-childhood-experiences-shape-adult-anxiety/): The Link Between Childhood Trauma and Adult Fawning Behavior Alright, let’s take a moment to put our hands on our hearts and connect with the little ones inside us. Those tender souls who were told to be “good” or to “just get along,” likely at the expense of our own needs and feelings. If you’ve ever felt like a human doormat, you might be intimately familiar with the fawning response—an instinctive behavior that can make you feel like a puppet on strings, dancing for approval and validation. But here’s the kicker: fawning isn’t just a quirky personality trait; it’s often rooted … Continued
- [Understanding the Intersection of Trauma and OCD: Breaking the Cycle of Fear and Compulsion](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/understanding-the-intersection-of-trauma-and-ocd-breaking-the-cycle-of-fear-and-compulsion/):   Understanding the Intersection of Trauma and OCD: Breaking the Cycle of Fear and Compulsion Let me take a moment to talk about something that often gets lost in translation: the reality of obsessive-compulsive disorder, or OCD. You know how it is; in the media, they often paint a picture that reduces it to merely wanting things to be clean or having repetitive thoughts. While those elements can be part of it, there is so much more beneath the surface. If you’ve ever experienced genuine OCD, you understand that it goes far beyond tidiness. There are rituals, an endless cycle of … Continued
- [Overcoming Neglect: The Impact on Mental and Physical Health](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/overcoming-neglect-the-impact-on-mental-and-physical-health/): Overcoming Neglect: The Impact on Mental and Physical Health Introduction Welcome to the rollercoaster of feelings that is neglect and its sneaky impact on our mental and physical health. Buckle up, because we’re diving deep into how a little thing like stress response can ripple through our lives like a stone tossed into a pond. Definition of neglect and its prevalence Neglect isn’t just about forgetting to water your plants or leaving the laundry in the dryer too long. In psychological terms, it refers to a failure to provide for a person’s basic emotional and physical needs. This can manifest in … Continued
- [Navigating the Impact of Trauma on Codependency](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/navigating-the-impact-of-trauma-on-codependency/): Navigating the Impact of Trauma on Codependency: Understanding and Overcoming Relationship Patterns   Relationships are complex, and our behavior in relationships has a direct connection to our well-being. Today, I want to focus on behavior patterns that link to codependency commonly seen in people who experience trauma. If you find yourself relying heavily on someone else for validation, self-worth, or to give you a sense of control, you may be codependent. This isn’t just a passing phase; it’s a deep-rooted relationship dynamic that can stem from past trauma, affecting how you perceive and engage with those around you. Am I Co-Dependent? … Continued
- [How Social Media Impacts Mental Health in Adults](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/how-social-media-impacts-mental-health-in-adults/):   How Social Media Impacts Mental Health in Adults Introduction Welcome to the digital age, where social media is as ubiquitous as coffee in a hipster cafe. But while we scroll through endless feeds of curated lives, it’s crucial to take a step back and ponder the impact of social media on mental health. The intertwining of our online interactions and psychological well-being is a hot topic that deserves some serious attention. Let’s face it: social media platforms like Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook are not just tools for sharing cute cat videos or checking out what your high school crush had … Continued
- [The Link Between Childhood Trauma and Adult Fawning Behavior](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/how-to-stop-fawning-anxiety-trauma/): The Link Between Childhood Trauma and Adult Fawning Behavior Alright, let’s take a moment to put our hands on our hearts and connect with the little ones inside us. Those tender souls who were told to be “good” or to “just get along,” likely at the expense of our own needs and feelings. If you’ve ever felt like a human doormat, you might be intimately familiar with the fawning response.  It is an instinctive behavior that can make you feel like a puppet on strings, dancing for approval and validation. But here’s the kicker: fawning isn’t just a quirky personality trait; … Continued
- [EMDR for Trauma](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/emdr-for-trauma/): EMDR for Trauma: Rewiring Your Brain for Lasting Peace Imagine this: you’re sitting in a cozy chair, sipping on your favorite herbal tea.  Suddenly, the ghosts of your past rear their ugly heads. Memories of childhood abuse, trauma, or neglect start swirling, overshadowing those tranquil moments. Sounds familiar? If you find yourself nodding along, you’re not alone. Many adults grapple with the lingering effects of past traumas.   Often leading to anxiety, phobias, or that nagging need to please others at the expense of your well-being.    But here’s the good news.  There’s a transformative therapy that can help you reclaim … Continued
- [Neurofeedback for Brain Training:  What is it?  Is it right for me?](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/neurofeedback-for-brain-training-what-is-it-is-it-right-for-me/): Neurofeedback for Brain Training: A Comprehensive Briefing Neurofeedback therapy is an innovative intervention designed to help individuals self-regulate their brain activity. It aims to alleviate symptoms associated with various conditions such as ADHD, insomnia, anxiety, depression, and PTSD. This therapy is rooted in neuroscience and utilizes real-time monitoring of brainwave patterns (EEG) to train individuals. They learn to modify specific frequencies, promoting healthier brain function. What is Neurofeedback for Brain Training? Neurofeedback (NFB) is a form of biofeedback that enables individuals to learn self-regulation of their neural activity. By monitoring brainwave patterns in real-time, individuals receive feedback that allows them to … Continued
- [Finding Compassion in Adversity](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/finding-compassion-in-adversity/): Finding Compassion in Adversity: A Journey of Healing and Connection Recently, I had the profound opportunity to attend a talk by Gabor Maté in San Diego, CA. His insights into trauma and compassion have always resonated deeply with me, and I left feeling inspired and hopeful about our capacity to heal and connect with one another. One moment from the event stood out, encapsulating the struggle many face when dealing with pain and rejection. A young woman, whose heritage included First Nations roots through her father and Mexican lineage through her mother, bravely stood to share her struggle. She expressed her … Continued
- [Introducing At-Home Neurofeedback in San Diego](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/introducing-at-home-neurofeedback-in-san-diego/):    Introducing At-Home Neurofeedback in San Diego: A Breakthrough for Anxiety, Trauma & ADHD   I’m proud to offer **At-Home Neurofeedback Therapy** to San Diego residents and beyond.  Neurofeedback is a revolutionary, drug-free tool to rewire your brain for calm, focus, and resilience. Whether you’re struggling with anxiety, trauma, ADHD, or chronic stress, this science-backed therapy empowers you to heal from the comfort of home.  However, Neurofeedback isn’t just for what you are struggling with, it can be used to bio-hack your brain to improve already good performance! — What is Neurofeedback? Neurofeedback is a form of biofeedback that uses real-time … Continued
- [Trauma Triggers:  Understanding Your Emotional Responses](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/trauma-triggers-understanding-your-emotional-responses/): Discovering Your Trauma Triggers: How Early Experiences Shape Daily Reactions as an Adult Ah, triggers. If you’ve ever found yourself feeling inexplicably angry, anxious, or overwhelmed in a situation that seemed perfectly normal to everyone else, congratulations! You might just be experiencing a trauma trigger. Unlike your average Tuesday morning coffee jitters, these reactions often stem from early experiences that have silently shaped your emotional landscape. Think of your childhood as the training ground for adult life—a quirky boot camp where you learned survival skills that are now kicking in at the most inconvenient times. Picture this: You’re sitting in a … Continued
- [Healing PTSD:  Your Journey Begins Here](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/healing-ptsd-your-journey-begins-here/):   Breaking Through PTSD: Scientific Approaches to Recovery So, you’ve got PTSD. Congratulations! You’re part of the approximately 6% of the U.S. population who will experience post-traumatic stress disorder at some point in their lives—how’s that for a not-so-fun club? But don’t worry; we’re not here to dwell on the pain; instead, let’s explore how to heal. If you’re tired of feeling like the lead character in a horror movie every time something triggers your memories, you’re in the right place. Healing from trauma can seem as mystical as finding a unicorn, but trust me, it’s quite possible. Many people think … Continued
- [Neuroplasticity and Trauma](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/neuroplasticity-and-trauma/): Neuroplasticity and Trauma: How Your Brain Can Heal and Adapt Life may have handed you a rough start, but that doesn’t mean you’re stuck with it forever. Thanks to the magic of neuroplasticity, your brain can heal and adapt, even if you’ve faced childhood abuse, trauma, or neglect. Whether you’re a high-achieving professional or someone who’s ready to overcome anxiety and trauma, understanding how neuroplasticity works can be your first step towards healing. Let’s dive into how our brains operate, especially when dealing with childhood trauma, and how you can leverage this knowledge to foster emotional healing. Understanding Neuroplasticity: The Brain’s … Continued
- [Somatic Awareness and Healing From Trauma](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/somatic-awareness-and-healing-from-trauma/): Body Signals: Understanding Your Trauma Response Through Somatic Awareness Welcome to the whirlwind that is adult life—complete with deadlines, relationships, and the occasional existential crisis. Who has time for somatic awareness??  But if you’ve ever sensed that your past is doing a rather impressive job at crashing your present party, you might be grappling with the signs in adults of childhood trauma. Spoiler alert: You’re not alone. In fact, nearly 60% of adults report having experienced some form of childhood trauma, which can manifest in everything from anxiety and depression to those delightful little quirks known as phobias and people-pleasing tendencies. … Continued
- [Breaking Free:  Your Journey to Healing Childhood Trauma](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/breaking-free-your-journey-to-healing-childhood-trauma/): Breaking Free: Your Journey to Healing Childhood Trauma Welcome! If you’ve found yourself here, it means you’re ready to embark on a powerful journey of healing from childhood trauma. Whether it’s overcoming past abuse, neglect, or simply navigating the emotional scars left from early experiences, you’ve taken a brave step forward. Our goal is to help you navigate this complex path with compassion, understanding, and maybe a pinch of humor because healing doesn’t have to be all doom and gloom. Let’s dive in! Understanding the Effects of Childhood Trauma Ah, childhood—a time of blissful ignorance and delightful play, unless of course, … Continued
- [The Power of Body-Mind Connection:  A Guide to Somatic Healing Practices](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/the-power-of-body-mind-connection-a-guide-to-somatic-healing-practices/):   The Power of Body-Mind Connection: A Guide to Somatic Healing Practices In today’s fast-paced world, the mind-body connection often plays second fiddle to our ever-growing to-do lists. But what if I told you that tapping into this connection could transform your life? Buckle up because we’re diving into the fascinating realm of somatic healing. Whether you’re dealing with trauma, managing stress, or just looking to elevate your mental and physical wellness, understanding somatic practices could be the game-changer you’ve been waiting for. Understanding Somatic Healing: What It Is and Why It Matters If you’ve ever felt like your body was … Continued
- [Choosing a Trauma Therapist, San Diego](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/choosing-a-trauma-therapist-san-diego/): Welcome to the world of somatic therapy and finding a trauma therapist in San Diego. Where your body gets to join the conversation during your healing journey! If you’re like many adults navigating the complex aftermath of childhood abuse, trauma, or neglect, you may have noticed that traditional talk therapy often feels like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. Sure, discussing feelings is important (and kudos to you for opening that can of worms), but what about all those pesky physical sensations? You know, the butterflies in your stomach when you think about that uncomfortable family reunion … Continued
- [Hidden Symptoms of Childhood Trauma You Should Know](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/hidden-symptoms-of-childhood-trauma-you-should-know/): Unmasking the Hidden Symptoms of Childhood Trauma in Adulthood Is your past sneaking up on you like an ex at a party? You know, the one you tried to avoid but somehow keeps popping into your life? If you’ve ever felt like an uninvited guest is hanging around in your psyche—possibly due to some unresolved childhood trauma—you’re not alone. Many adults grapple with the symptoms of childhood trauma in adulthood, often without realizing that their current struggles are intricately woven into their past experiences. Spoiler alert: understanding these symptoms can be the key to unlocking a happier, healthier future. According to … Continued
- [Podcast:   Trauma and Health](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/podcast-trauma-and-health/): Check out the podcast on my Substack  Episode 1:  Trauma and Autoimmune Disease as well as other health conditions.   https://open.substack.com/pub/mindfulish/p/traumas-impact-on-autoimmune-disease?r=4soh3j&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=email Episode 2: Fear of Success After Trauma   https://open.substack.com/pub/mindfulish/p/fear-of-success-after-trauma?r=4soh3j&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true  
- [Is Your Adult Anxiety or Depression Rooted in Childhood Trauma? Signs & Symptoms to Know](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/is-your-adult-anxiety-or-depression-rooted-in-childhood-trauma-signs-symptoms-to-know/):   From Adult Anxiety, Depression, to Addiction: 7 Compelling Effects of Childhood Trauma in Adulthood Ah, childhood. The time of scraped knees, goofy laughter, and… unresolved trauma? Unfortunately, for many of us, those formative years can also be a breeding ground for emotional scars that we carry well into adulthood. If you’ve found yourself wrestling with anxiety, phobias, or an incessant need to please everyone but yourself, you’re not alone. In fact, studies suggest that many adults grappling with adult anxiety or depression challenges are unwittingly entangled in a complex web of childhood trauma. You might be wondering how on earth … Continued
- [Finding Balance: Integrated Treatment for Depression and Anxiety](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/finding-balance-integrated-treatment-for-depression-and-anxiety/): Finding Balance: Integrated Treatment for Depression and Anxiety Introduction Welcome to the world where “depression anxiety therapist” isn’t just a string of words you randomly Google at 3 AM. It’s your lifeline, your ticket to finding balance amidst the chaos that life sometimes throws our way. Let’s face it: in a world where adulting involves juggling career pressures, untangling childhood traumas, and managing a social life that probably revolves more around Netflix than cocktail parties, anxiety and depression can feel like unwelcome permanent houseguests. But here’s the silver lining: you’re not alone. Nearly 1 in 25 adults in the U.S. experience … Continued
- [Somatic Anxiety Therapy For Stress Relief in San Diego](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/somatic-anxiety-therapy-for-stress-relief-in-san-diego/):   Somatic Anxiety Therapy: A San Diego Guide to Body-Based Healing Welcome to the sunny shores of San Diego, where the beach is hot, and so is the topic of anxiety therapy. If you’re reading this, chances are you’re looking for ways to shake off that persistent anxiety that seems to cling like sand on a wet swimsuit. Lucky for you, you’ve landed in the right place. As a licensed somatic trauma therapist nestled in this beautiful city, I specialize in a holistic approach that connects your brain, body, and mind to kick anxiety to the curb. Sounds intriguing? Let’s dive … Continued
- [Generational Trauma in San Diego: Breaking the Cycle](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/generational-trauma-in-san-diego-breaking-the-cycle/): Healing Generational Trauma in San Diego: Breaking the Cycle of Family Trauma Do you ever feel like you’re stuck in a family drama that rivals the wildest soap operas? Well, you’re not alone. Many adults find themselves grappling with the invisible chains of family traumas that can echo through generations, creating patterns of pain and dysfunction that seem nearly impossible to break. The psychological impact of generational trauma in San Diego can be profound, often manifesting as anxiety, phobias, or even the relentless urge to please everyone around you—except yourself. And let’s be honest, who hasn’t experienced a little family dysfunction … Continued
- [Beyond PTSD: Understanding Different Types of Trauma and Their Impact](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/beyond-ptsd-understanding-different-types-of-trauma-and-their-impact/): Beyond PTSD: Understanding Different Types of Trauma and Their Impact Introduction Let’s face it—trauma isn’t just a buzzword or the excuse you use when you accidentally binge-watch an entire season of your favorite show in one sitting. It’s a complex psychological and emotional phenomenon that impacts millions worldwide. In fact, did you know that about 1 in 5 adults in the U.S. experience mental illness each year?Source. That’s no small number! So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed or like a human stress ball, guess what? You’re definitely not alone. Now, before we dive into the definition of trauma, let’s get on the … Continued
- [Brainspotting Therapy: A Path To Healing Trauma](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/brainspotting-therapy-a-path-to-healing-trauma/): Welcome to the exciting world of Brainspotting Therapy, an innovative technique that’s gathering momentum in the mental health community. If you struggle with childhood trauma, phobias, or have a tendency to people-please, this could be very helpful for you. If you want to focus on one fear (like dealing with your mother in law over the holidays), improve performance, or just enhance a feeling of well-being brainspotting could be helpful as well. As someone who thrives on high achievement and enjoys a bit of snark with their wisdom, you’ll appreciate this deep dive into how brainspotting can transform your relationship with … Continued
- [The Myth of Perfectionism: Fueling the Fear of Being Seen in Los Angeles](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/the-myth-of-perfectionism-fueling-the-fear-of-being-seen/): The Myth of Perfectionism: Fueling the Fear of Being Seen in Los Angeles Ah, perfectionism it is what we strive for in our work, in our socials, and with our partners—a delightful little gremlin that thrives on our quest for flawlessness and feeds our fear of being seen trauma. You know the type: the one that makes you recheck emails five times before hitting “send” or keeps you from attending social events because, heaven forbid, your hair isn’t styled just right. This overachieving monster tells us that unless we are perfect, we are not worthy of love or acceptance. Spoiler alert: … Continued
- [Understanding Parts Work Therapy: Healing Your Inner World](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/understanding-parts-work-therapy-healing-your-inner-world/): Introduction to Parts Work Therapy Welcome to the fascinating world of Parts Work Therapy, where we dive into the kaleidoscope of your inner world. Imagine your mind as a lively family reunion filled with quirky uncles, rebellious teens, and an overprotective aunt who wants to keep you wrapped in bubble wrap. Everyone has a voice, a story, and—let’s be honest—a bit of drama. Parts Work Therapy is your invitation to not only understand these lively subpersonalities but also to foster harmony among them. Parts Work Therapy helps individuals resolve internal conflicts by recognizing and aligning their various parts. According to Internal … Continued
- [7 Myths About Trauma Therapy in San Diego Busted](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/7-myths-about-trauma-therapy-in-san-diego-busted/): 7 Myths About Trauma Therapy in San Diego Busted When it comes to trauma therapy in San Diego, myths abound faster than a seagull swooping in for your beach fries. If you’ve ever found yourself Googling “San Diego trauma therapist” while wondering whether therapy is just another buzzword or if it can actually help you put the past to rest, you’re not alone. It’s estimated that approximately 20% of adults in the U.S. experience a mental illness in a given year. Yet, shockingly, less than half receive treatment—leaving countless individuals grappling with their pain alone. Trauma doesn’t discriminate—it affects high achievers, … Continued
- [The Benefits of Somatic Experiencing](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/the-benefits-of-somatic-experiencing-therapy/):   Reconnecting Mind and Body: The Benefits of Somatic Experiencing Let’s talk about something that might make you squirm a little: your body. Yes, that lovely vessel of yours that carries around all the emotional baggage you didn’t sign up for. If you’ve ever felt like your mind is racing while your body is just… well, sitting there, you’re definitely not alone. This disconnect is common, especially for those who have experienced childhood abuse, trauma, or even just the day-to-day stressors of high-achieving adult life. Enter somatic experiencing therapy. This isn’t your typical sit-on-the-couch-and-talk-therapy; it’s a holistic approach that marries the … Continued
- [Trauma Therapy Techniques You’ve Never Heard Of](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/trauma-therapy-techniques-youve-never-heard-of/): Trauma Therapy Techniques You’ve Never Heard Of: Innovative Approaches Explained In a world where your therapist can be an AI bot, why would you pay to see a professional?  This blog is going to do a deep dive into trauma therapy techniques that you most likely haven’t heard of and that don’t involve AI.   Did you know that trauma therapy has come a long way from the days of simply lying on a couch and talking about your feelings? With innovative approaches emerging all the time, it’s no wonder that those who’ve experienced childhood abuse, trauma, or even a phobia … Continued
- [Understanding Somatic Healing](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/understanding-somatic-healing/): The Power of Body-Mind Connection: A Guide to Somatic Healing Practices In today’s fast-paced world, the mind-body connection often plays second fiddle to our ever-growing to-do lists. But what if I told you that tapping into this connection could transform your life? Buckle up because we’re diving into the fascinating realm of somatic healing. Whether you’re dealing with trauma, managing stress, or just looking to elevate your mental and physical wellness, understanding somatic practices could be the game-changer you’ve been waiting for. Understanding Somatic Healing: What It Is and Why It Matters   If you’ve ever felt like your body was … Continued
- [Understanding Somatic Therapy For Emotional Healing](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/understanding-somatic-therapy-for-emotional-healing/): Today there are so many “mental health professionals” out there telling us about all the ways we can deal with our stress and trauma, how do we sift through all of the information to get a true understanding of what can help.   This blog is intended to help with understanding Somatic Therapy for emotional healing.    Somatic therapy is an innovative therapeutic approach that emphasizes the profound connection between the mind and body. This method encourages individuals to recognize and release physical tension and emotional blockages stored within their bodies. As more people seek holistic healing solutions, somatic therapy has … Continued
- [How Childhood Trauma Triggers Your Fear of Success](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/how-childhood-trauma-triggers-your-fear-of-success/): The Silent Saboteur: How Childhood Trauma Triggers Your Fear of Success Ever feel like success is a landmine you’re desperately trying to avoid? Welcome to the complex world of fear of success trauma – where childhood whispers become adult barriers. It’s not just you spinning your wheels; it’s a deeply rooted psychological dance choreographed by early experiences. As renowned trauma expert Dr. Gabor Maté brilliantly notes, “Trauma is not what happens to you, but what happens inside you as a result of what happened to you.” This profound insight illuminates why some high-achieving professionals unconsciously sabotage their own potential. The Perfectionism … Continued
- [Therapy in San Diego For Beginners](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/therapy-in-san-diego-for-beginners/): Demystifying Mental Health Support in San Diego If you’re considering taking the leap into therapy for the first time, you might feel a mix of excitement and apprehension—like standing at the edge of a diving board, peering down at the water below. It’s completely normal to wonder what awaits you on the other side. Therapy is often shrouded in mystery, but it doesn’t have to be that way! In vibrant San Diego, mental health services are more accessible than ever, and understanding how they work can empower you to take that step towards healing. Did you know that about 1 in … Continued
- [5 Signs You Are a People Pleaser & Trauma Might Be Behind It](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/5-signs-you-are-a-people-pleaser-and-trauma-might-be-behind-it/): 5 Signs You Are a People Pleaser and How Trauma Might Be Behind It Maybe you have been told you are a People Pleaser but how do you know, and how do you stop?   You say yes when you mean no. You overextend yourself to avoid conflict. You feel an almost compulsive need to be liked. Sound familiar? If so, you might be a people pleaser. But here’s the thing—this isn’t just a “personality trait” or a cute quirk. It’s often a deeply ingrained survival response, rooted in trauma. People-pleasing is frequently tied to the fawn response, a lesser-known trauma … Continued
- [Imposter Syndrome: Overcoming the Inner Critic](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/imposter-syndrome-overcoming-the-inner-critic/): Overcoming Imposter Syndrome: A Somatic Approach to Embracing Success Imposter syndrome is like that one annoying party guest who wasn’t invited but somehow found their way in—and now they won’t stop whispering, “You don’t belong here.” If you’ve ever achieved something amazing (or even just mildly impressive) only to feel like you’re moments away from being exposed as a fraud, you’re not alone. Imposter syndrome and the fear of success often go hand in hand, especially for those with a history of trauma. But here’s the thing: that voice in your head? It’s not you. It’s a survival response. And it … Continued
- [Healing Your Inner World: Parts Work Therapy San Diego](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/healing-your-inner-world-parts-work-therapy-san-diego/): Introduction to Parts Work Therapy Welcome to the fascinating world of Parts Work Therapy, where we dive into the kaleidoscope of your inner world. Picture this: your mind is like a bustling family reunion, complete with quirky uncles, rebellious teens, and that overprotective aunt who insists on wrapping you in bubble wrap. Everyone has a voice, a story, and—let’s be honest—a bit of drama. Parts Work Therapy is your invitation to not only understand these lively subpersonalities but also to foster harmony among them. At its core, Parts Work Therapy is designed to help individuals address internal conflicts by acknowledging and … Continued
- [Fear of Success: Psychological Barriers to Achievement](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/fear-of-success-psychological-barriers-to-achievement/): Ever feel like success is a landmine you’re desperately trying to avoid? Welcome to the complex world of fear of success trauma – where childhood traumas become adult barriers. It’s not just you spinning your wheels; it’s a deeply rooted psychological dance choreographed by early experiences. As renowned trauma expert Dr. Gabor Maté brilliantly notes, “Trauma is not what happens to you, but what happens inside you as a result of what happened to you.” This profound insight illuminates why some high-achieving professionals unconsciously sabotage their own potential. The Perfectionism Paradox Here’s the twisted irony: Your need for approval and perfection … Continued
- [EMDR Therapy Can Rewire the Brain and Heal Trauma](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/emdr-therapy-in-san-diego/): For many adults who struggle with people-pleasing or have endured difficult childhoods, breaking free from deeply ingrained patterns of behavior can feel overwhelming. These patterns often stem from early traumatic experiences that shape how we interact with the world and perceive ourselves. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy in San Diego offers a powerful, science-backed approach to healing by helping rewire the brain and resolve the root causes of these behaviors. What Is EMDR Therapy in San Diego? EMDR is a psychotherapy approach developed by Francine Shapiro in the late 1980s. Originally designed to alleviate distress from traumatic memories, its … Continued
- [The Cost of Distraction & Disconnection](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/the-cost-of-distraction-disconnection/): The Fawn Trauma Response & The Cost of Distraction: Why Emotional Presence is Essential for Healing Trauma is often misunderstood. Many believe it’s solely about the painful, harmful events that shape us—abuse, neglect, loss. But as renowned trauma expert Dr. Gabor Maté states, “Trauma is not just what happens to you. It is also about what doesn’t happen—what should have happened but didn’t.” This means that trauma isn’t just about what went wrong; it’s also about the love, connection, and presence that were missing.  The following blog will talk about what it costs us when we are disconnected and distracted. In … Continued
- [Somatic Therapy For Anxiety From an Anxiety Specialist](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/somatic-therapy-for-anxiety-from-an-anxiety-specialist/): Anxiety is a common experience that can manifest in various forms, ranging from mild nervousness to debilitating panic attacks. Understanding the signs of anxiety and exploring effective management techniques is crucial for improving mental health and overall well-being. Mind-body healing approaches, including somatic therapy, brainspotting, and neurofeedback, offer promising solutions for those struggling with anxiety. Recognizing the Signs of Anxiety Anxiety can present itself through a wide array of symptoms. These may include: Persistent worry or fear Restlessness or feeling on edge Difficulty concentrating Irritability Muscle tension Sleep disturbances Panic attacks characterized by rapid heart rate, sweating, trembling, or shortness of … Continued
- [The Opposite of Stress is Safety](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/the-opposite-of-stress-is-safety/): Healing Trauma in a Climate of Dehumanization In today’s turbulent world, many individuals are experiencing profound stress as their very right to exist is being threatened.  This week a client of mine wanted me to hear some history for fear she would be exterminated and the information would die with her.  It is because of that conversation with her that I am writing this blog.   I want her to know she isn’t alone and to share a little of the history.    When a group of people is dehumanized—when their identity, safety, and dignity are called into question—it creates an … Continued
- [Internal Family Systems Therapy San Diego Explained](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/internal-family-systems-therapy-san-diego-explained/): Reclaim your authentic self with Internal Family Systems Therapy. Find out how to heal past wounds and achieve inner harmony through this unique approach
- [Managing Anxiety in San Diego During Political Uncertainty](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/managing-anxiety-san-diego-during-political-uncertainty/): Managing Anxiety in San Diego During Political Uncertainty As an anxiety and trauma therapist based in San Diego, I understand how unsettling times of political change can be. Whether you are feeling overwhelmed by the news, uncertain about the future, or concerned about how these changes might impact your life, you are not alone. Anxiety during times of political transition is a common and natural response. The good news is that there are practical tools and techniques to help manage these feelings. In this blog, I will share actionable strategies for managing anxiety, including somatic practices, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), brainspotting, … Continued
- [Is Being Neurodivergent Traumatic?](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/is-being-neurodivergent-traumatic/): In the world of mental health, trauma and neurodivergence often intertwine in complex and fascinating ways.   Is being neurodivergent traumatic?  I am writing this knowing that each individual has their own experience with this and the answer might be “yes, no, and sometimes”. As a trauma therapist specializing in somatic therapy, EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), and PTSD treatment here in San Diego, I’ve noticed a recurring theme among my clients: many symptoms of trauma closely resemble traits of ADHD or other forms of neurodivergence.   Sometimes clients get diagnosed with ADHD when it is really PTSD. Let’s dive … Continued
- [Understanding Trauma: Unbearable, Overwhelming, Unbelievable](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/understanding-trauma/): Understanding Trauma: Overcoming the Unbearable, the Overwhelming, and the Unbelievable This week with the Southern California fires, I’ve witnessed a lot of trauma. Trauma is a word often used in everyday conversation, but its true essence is profoundly personal and deeply impactful. It shapes lives, alters perceptions, and influences how we navigate the world. For those experiencing trauma, it’s not just an event from the past; it’s an ongoing struggle in the present. As a trauma therapist in San Diego specializing in somatic trauma therapy, PTSD, EMDR, and Compassionate Inquiry, I’m here to provide insight into how trauma affects us and … Continued
- [Sustainable Change with Somatic Therapy in San Diego](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/sustainable-change-with-somatic-therapy-in-san-diego/): Rethinking New Year’s Resolutions Sustainable Change with Somatic Therapy in San Diego As we step into the New Year, many of us find ourselves reflecting on ways to improve our lives. It’s a time for resolutions, big dreams, and ambitious goals. Yet, despite our best intentions, many New Year’s resolutions fall by the wayside. Why? I’m here to share with you the secret to sustainable change with somatic therapy in San Diego.   The traditional approach to change often focuses on modifying behaviors without addressing the deeper programming that drives those actions. What if, instead of pushing against old habits, we … Continued
- [My Journey With Somatic Trauma Therapy](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/my-journey-somatic-trauma-therapy/): The Unexpected Power of Somatic Trauma Therapy My Personal Journey and Professional Insights Trauma is not only stored in our minds but deeply imprinted in our bodies. As a somatic trauma therapist in San Diego, I often share this truth with my clients. Yet, during a recent somatic trauma therapy training, I experienced firsthand just how powerful this connection can be. Last month, during a Somatic Experiencing training session, something surprising happened. As a colleague stood over me at a certain angle, I was suddenly transported back to an event from when I was five years old—an event I hadn’t consciously … Continued
- [Navigating the Feelings Trap: Overcoming Self-destructive Behaviors](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/overcoming-self-destructive-behaviors/): We all experience moments of emotional turmoil and distress, but for some, these feelings can become overwhelming and lead to self-destructive behaviors. We see ourselves doing them; eating our feelings, dating the unhealthy person, saying yes when we want to say no. We want to stop but don’t know how. Understanding and overcoming these behaviors is crucial for achieving a healthier, more balanced life. This blog post delves into the nature of self-destructive behavior, its underlying causes, and effective strategies to navigate this challenging terrain. Understanding Self-Destructive Behaviors Self-destructive behavior refers to actions that are harmful or potentially harmful towards oneself. … Continued
- [Building Trust with a Trauma-Informed Therapist](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/building-trust-with-a-trauma-informed-therapist/): How to Find a Therapist You Trust   Building Trust with a Trauma-Informed Therapist in San Diego can feel daunting.   It feels like there are so many options out there, Coaches, Mentors, Talk therapy, Somatic therapy… Where to start? Photo by Mikhail Nilov:   Trust is the foundation of any therapeutic relationship, especially when it comes to trauma therapy. For individuals who have experienced trauma, the journey towards healing can be fraught with challenges and uncertainties. A trauma-informed therapist plays a crucial role in this process by creating a safe and supportive environment where trust can flourish.   Understanding Trauma-Informed … Continued
- [The Secret to Breaking Free from Relational Trauma](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/secret-to-breaking-free-from-relational-trauma/):  You Don’t Have to Become Your Parents Relational trauma—the kind that stems from harmful or neglectful relationships—shapes us in ways we often don’t realize. It whispers in our minds, creating fears, shame, and patterns we can’t seem to break. And if you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, “Oh no, I sound just like my mom (or dad)”, you’re not alone. But here’s the good news:   You don’t have to repeat the same old cycles. Understanding Relational Trauma (aka Why Family Reunions Might Be Harder Than They Should Be) Relational trauma happens when someone you trust causes emotional harm, whether through abuse, … Continued
- [Deck the Halls:  Dodge the Holiday Drama](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/deck-the-halls-dodge-the-holiday-drama/): The holiday season is a time filled with joy, laughter, and togetherness. However, for many people, it can also be a period of stress and anxiety due to tricky family dynamics. Navigating family holiday drama at gatherings without losing your mind is possible with the right strategies in place. This guide will provide you with practical steps to handle these situations compassionately and effectively.   Understanding Your Holiday Drama Triggers   Before diving into strategies, it’s crucial to understand what triggers your anxiety or discomfort during family gatherings. Take some time to reflect on past experiences: Identify Specific Situations: Think about … Continued
- [Holiday Burnout: "More" Isn't Always Merrier](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/more-isnt-always-merrier/): Photo by Element5 Digital on Unsplash The holidays are often painted as the most wonderful time of the year. Yet for many, they feel like a minefield of stress, burnout due to over-commitment, and emotional exhaustion. The pressure to create a perfect holiday, attend every event, and buy the perfect gifts can leave you overwhelmed and disconnected from what truly matters. As a trauma therapist specializing in the fawn trauma response, somatic therapy, brainspotting, and EMDR, I see this pattern frequently. People pleasing and overextending during the holidays aren’t just stressful—they can be deeply tied to unresolved trauma and patterns of … Continued
- [Somatic Therapy Benefits](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/somatic-therapy-benefits/): Discover how somatic therapy benefits can transform your trauma recovery journey in San Diego. By focusing on the mind-body connection, this compassionate approach empowers you to manage stress and achieve holistic healing. Prioritize your well-being today.
- [Compassionate Inquiry:  Healing Trauma with Empathy](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/compassionate-inquiry-healing-trauma-with-empathy/): Compassionate Inquiry:  Healing Trauma with Empathy Trauma and anxiety can cast long shadows over our lives, affecting our sense of self, relationships, and overall well-being. While these experiences can be profoundly debilitating, Compassionate Inquiry offers a path toward healing and peace. This approach to trauma therapy was developed by Gabor Maté and Sat Dharam Kaur. It emphasizes understanding and integrating past traumas with empathy and care, allowing individuals to reclaim their lives from the grip of fear, worry, and shame. Understanding Trauma and Its Impact Trauma is an emotional response to distressing events that overwhelm an individual’s ability to cope and … Continued
- [People Pleasing at the Holidays](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/people-pleasing-at-the-holidays/): Surviving the Holidays as a People Pleaser The holiday season, with its festive cheer and family gatherings, often brings a unique set of challenges for many people. One such challenge is the tendency to fall into the trap of people pleasing. While it’s natural to want to make others happy, constantly prioritizing others’ needs over your own can leave you feeling exhausted, empty, and disconnected from your authentic self. The Weight of Expectations During the holidays, expectations run high. There are traditions to uphold, meals to prepare, gifts to buy, and social events to attend. For those who struggle with people … Continued
- [Somatic Trauma Therapy: Understanding Compassionate Inquiry](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/somatic-trauma-therapy-understanding-compassionate-inquiry/): With so many options for trauma therapy why consider Compassionate Inquiry? Trauma is a deeply personal experience that can leave lasting imprints on one’s emotional and physical well-being. For many, the path to healing from trauma involves navigating complex emotions such as fear, shame, chronic stress and hopelessness. In this blog post, we will explore how Compassionat Inquiry in trauma therapy can help individuals overcome anxiety and create a sense of peace in their bodies. Compassionate Inquiry is a somatic psychotherapy model, focusing on the mind-body connection. Understanding Compassionate Inquiry Compassionate Inquiry is an approach developed by Dr. Gabor Maté that … Continued
- [IFS for Trauma Recovery; Making Peace With Your Inner Family](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/ifs-for-trauma-recovery/): IFS (Internal Family Systems) for Trauma Recovery In the journey of healing from trauma, understanding what is happening in our inner world is crucial. One therapeutic approach that has gained recognition for its profound impact on trauma recovery is Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy. This compassionate and insightful method helps individuals navigate their internal landscapes, fostering healing and growth. Understanding IFS Therapy Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz in the 1980s, is a transformative approach that views the mind as a system of parts, each with its own unique perspectives and roles. According to IFS, we all … Continued
- [How Somatic Therapy Can Transform Your Life](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/how-somatic-therapy-can-transform-your-life/):  How Somatic Therapy Can Transform Your Life:   Real Healing for Deep-Seated Trauma Trauma can leave lasting imprints on the mind and body, affecting our health, relationships, and overall well-being. When trauma runs deep, traditional talk therapy alone might not reach the core of the wounds, leaving us feeling stuck.   Often clients feel there is no way out of PTSD or CPTSD, but there is. Somatic therapy, however, offers a transformative approach that addresses trauma at a physical level, helping to truly release tension, fear, and a feeling of when is the next bad thing going to happen. In this … Continued
- [Somatic Therapy for Anxiety Featured in Yahoo Life](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/somatic-therapy-featured-in-yahoo-life/): Somatic Therapy for Anxiety Featured in Yahoo Life  Yahoo Life: How to Stay Calm When Life Feels Uncertain When life throws us curveballs, finding calm can feel challenging—especially when uncertainty is all around us. Recently, I was honored to contribute to Yahoo Life’s article, *4 Ways to Keep Calm When I Have No Idea What Is Going On, According to Therapists.* As a trauma therapist, I’m passionate about helping people manage the toll that stress and unpredictability can take on their minds and bodies. In this blog, I’ll expand on the somatic therapy for anxiety techniques I shared in the article. … Continued
- [Say Goodbye to People-Pleasing with Somatic Therapy](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/say-goodbye-to-people-pleasing-with-somatic-therapy/): Say Goodbye to People-Pleasing with Somatic Therapy People-pleasing may seem harmless on the surface, but for many successful women in business, it’s a silent drain on energy, dreams, and self-worth. While juggling career, relationships, and personal goals, we often say “yes” when we mean “no,” just to avoid conflict or disappointment. But at what cost? How can we learn to say goodbye to people-pleasing with Somatic Trauma Therapy? Photo by Mikhail Nilov: The Real Cost of People-Pleasing People-pleasing keeps you stuck in patterns that prevent you from living an authentic life, pursuing meaningful relationships, and reaching the career heights you deserve. … Continued
- [Finding Peace and Self-Compassion After Trauma](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/finding-peace-and-self-compassion-after-trauma/): Finding Peace and Self-Compassion After Trauma Healing from trauma is hard, but you don’t have to do it alone. Finding peace and self-compassion after trauma may seem impossible due to  feelings of shame, fear, or helplessness.  These feelings are common, but they don’t define you.  By learning self-compassion, you can start to find peace within yourself and your body.   Photo by spotwizardlee   What is Self-Compassion? Think about how you’d comfort a dear friend going through a tough time. Self-compassion is simply offering that same love and kindness to yourself. It’s about acknowledging your pain and reminding yourself that everyone … Continued
- [Empower Yourself with Somatic Therapy for People Pleasing](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/empowering-yourself-through-somatic-therapy-for-people-pleasing/): Empower yourself with Somatic Therapy for People Pleasing We’ve all heard of the fight, flight, and freeze responses to trauma. But there’s a lesser-known survival mechanism called the fawn response. This often shows up as people-pleasing behavior, where individuals prioritize others’ needs over their own to avoid conflict. While it may seem harmless, people-pleasing can lead to burnout, stress, and low self-worth.   That is where Somatic Therapy for People Pleasing comes in.   What is the Fawn Trauma Response? The fawn response is a way people deal with stress by focusing on others’ needs to avoid potential threats or conflicts. … Continued
- [Neuroplasticity: Trauma Therapy Can Help Your Brain](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/neuroplasticity-trauma-therapy-can-help-your-brain/): Trauma can leave deep imprints on our minds and bodies, often manifesting as anxiety, fear, or a lingering sense of hopelessness. The journey to healing from trauma is complex and deeply personal, but understanding neuroplasticity can offer hope. Neuroplasticity is the brain’s remarkable ability to change itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. This capability plays a crucial role in recovery from trauma, depression, PTST, and anxiety. What is Neuroplasticity? Neuroplasticity refers to the brain’s ability to adapt as a result of experience. It involves the reorganization of neural pathways and synapses in response to learning or following injury. This allows … Continued
- [The Fear of Success and Being Seen: Heal with Trauma Therapy](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/the-fear-of-success-and-being-seen-heal-with-trauma-therapy/): What Is the Fear of Success? How Trauma Therapy in San Diego Can Help You Heal   The fear of success is a common and misunderstood response rooted in trauma. For many, the desire to stay small and unnoticed stems from past experiences where success or visibility led to emotional pain or danger. This blog will explore how these fears manifest, their deep connection to trauma, and effective strategies for overcoming them. We’ll also discuss how trauma therapy can help you navigate these challenges and reclaim your authentic self. The Roots of the Fear of Success The fear of success is … Continued
- [Somatic Therapy Interventions Featured in Flow Space Magazine](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/somatic-therapy-interventions-featured-in-flow-space-magazine/): Somatic Therapy Interventions Featured in The Flow Space Magazine San Diego, CA – October 10, 2023 – Overcome Anxiety & Trauma with Shay Licensed Clinical Social Worker P.C. is thrilled to announce the recent contribution of Shay DuBois to The Flow Space Magazine. In this insightful feature, Shay shares valuable somatic interventions that clients can practice independently to enhance body awareness and positively influence their moods. Enhancing Body Awareness: A Path to Emotional Well-being   Shay DuBois has always been dedicated to providing compassionate and effective trauma therapy. Her approach emphasizes creating a sense of peace and self-love, helping clients move … Continued
- [Turning Self-Doubt into Strength: Strategies for Trauma Survivors](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/turning-self-doubt-into-strength-strategies-for-trauma-survivors/): Trauma survivors often struggle with self-doubt and overwhelmed. Read on to learn how to rebuild confidence and reclaim your sense of self.
- [How to Stop the Fawn Trauma Response](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/how-to-stop-the-fawn-trauma-response/): Struggling with the fawn trauma response? This survival behavior can lead to self-neglect and emotional exhaustion. Discover compassionate strategies to recognize and overcome it, fostering a more authentic and fulfilling life.
- [Body-Centered Therapy: A Pathway to Healing from PTSD](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/body-centered-therapy-a-pathway-to-healing-from-ptsd/): Healing from PTSD is a journey, but you are not alone. Body-centered therapy offers a compassionate and effective path to recovery. By addressing the mind-body connection, you can find peace, regain control, and move forward with hope.
- [Understanding the Benefits of Somatic Therapy](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/understanding-the-benefits-of-somatic-therapy/): Somatic therapy focuses on the mind-body connection to address stress and trauma stored in the body. By enhancing physical, emotional, and mental well-being, it offers a holistic path to healing without re-traumatization. Discover how this compassionate approach can transform your life.
- [Somatic Trauma Therapy My Journey to National Geographic](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/somatic-trauma-therapy-my-journey-to-national-geographic/): My journey through trauma has been a deeply transformative experience, allowing me to contribute to National Geographic on Somatic Trauma Therapy. By reconnecting with my body and releasing stored emotions, I've built resilience and reclaimed my life. If you resonate with this story, know that healing is possible and a brighter tomorrow awaits.
- [EMDR, Somatic, and Brainspotting Therapy: What Should I Expect?](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/emdr-somatic-and-brainspotting-therapy-what-should-i-expect/): Discover what to expect from EMDR, somatic therapy, and brainspotting therapy. Learn about them and how your therapist supports you in healing.
- [7 Symptoms of Childhood Trauma in Adults You Might Have](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/symptoms-childhood-trauma-adults/): Recognize the lasting effects of childhood trauma in adults. Explore symptoms including emotional numbness, intrusive memories, and physical manifestations.
- [Are You Confusing CPTSD with PTSD? Here's How to Know](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/cptsd-ptsd-differences/): Learn the differences between PTSD and CPTSD with our insightful guide. Discover how to identify symptoms like emotional dysregulation and relational difficulties
- [Fawn Trauma Response: How People-Pleasing Negatively Affects Your Life](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/fawn-trauma-response-people-pleasing/): Explore the impact of fawn trauma with our in-depth guide. Learn how people-pleasing shapes your life and discover effective responses.
- [What Makes A Good Trauma Therapist?](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/what-makes-good-trauma-therapist/): Uncover the hallmarks of a good trauma therapist! Learn how empathy, understanding, and personalized care foster a safe space for healing and growth.
- [Am I A Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse? It's Never Too Late To Heal](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/child-sexual-abuse-signs-symptoms/): Seeking support is brave. Discover resources and support options for survivors of child sexual abuse. You're not alone in your healing journey.
- [Somatic Trauma Therapy: Heal the Mind Through Movement](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/somatic-trauma-therapy-heal-mind-through-movement/): Explore the science behind somatic healing and its impact on trauma recovery. Learn about different techniques and how they can aid in your healing journey.
- [Do I Have PTSD?](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/ptsd-episode-symptoms-coping/): Explore the depths of PTSD episodes and discover empowering coping strategies in our blog.Take control of your mental health journey today
- [10 Simple Tips on How To Help Heal Trauma](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/help-heal-trauma-tips/): Discover effective ways on how to heal trauma with these 10 simple tips. Enhance your recovery journey with practical strategies.
- [ShoutOut LA: Trauma Therapy Feature](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/trauma-therapy-feature/):  ShoutOut LA: My Work as a Trauma Therapist in the Spotlight Life often presents us with opportunities that challenge us to step out of our comfort zones. Recently, I experienced one such moment when I was invited to be featured as a somatic therapist and trauma therapist in ShoutOut LA.   Meet Shay DuBois | Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Somatic Trauma Therapist – SHOUTOUT LA. As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and trauma therapist specializing in somatic trauma therapy, I am passionate about helping others heal and thrive. However, the idea of putting myself out there for an interview was daunting. Initially, … Continued
- [5 Trauma Therapy Trends in California: A Therapist's Guide](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/5-trauma-therapy-trends-in-california/): Hello, California! If you’re on the lookout for innovative trauma therapy, you’re in the right place. As a trauma therapist in San Diego, California, I’m excited to share the top five trends for healing trauma that are transforming lives across the Golden State. These approaches are cutting-edge, effective, and making a real difference. So, grab a cup of coffee, get cozy, and let’s explore these fantastic healing methods together!  1. Brainspotting: Trauma Therapist with Precision First up, let’s talk about **Brainspotting**! Imagine a therapy that acts like a laser pointer, focusing directly on your trauma with pinpoint accuracy. Brainspotting (BSP) is … Continued
- [Trauma Therapy: Exploring the Power of Compassionate Inquiry](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/gabor-mates-ci-as-trauma-therapy/): Dr. Gabor Maté’s CI as Trauma Therapy changed my life as a person and as a therapist.   Many of you may be familiar with Gabor’s work as a medical doctor turned trauma expert.   For those of you who aren’t I will do a quick summary below:     Understanding Gabor Maté’s CI: A Somatic Tool for Trauma Therapy In the realm of trauma therapy and personal development, Gabor Maté’s Compassionate Inquiry stands out as a profound method for exploring the depths of human experience with empathy and understanding.  Developed by renowned physician and trauma expert Dr. Gabor Maté, Compassionate … Continued
- [Why Choose Dance Therapy as a Somatic Therapy?](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/why-choose-dance-therapy-as-a-somatic-therapy/): Why Choose Dance Therapy as a Somatic Therapy? Somatic Therapy San Francisco  You have been searching for a somatic therapist in the bay area and finally have settled on dance therapy as a modality. Now, you may have questions about how dance therapy works as a somatic therapy. That’s totally normal! Many people are not familiar with dance therapy or its benefits. The following answers to FAQs may help you understand more about somatic therapy in San Francisco and dance therapy specifically. FAQs About Dance Therapy 1)    What does dance therapy in California offer that traditional talk therapy doesn’t? Talk therapy, … Continued
- [Trauma Sucks, Somatic Therapy for Trauma Doesn't Have To](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/trauma-sucks-somatic-therapy-for-trauma-doesnt-have-to/): I get it, taking the plunge into Somatic Therapy for Trauma can be daunting.   It is a step that requires courage, vulnerability, and a willingness to dive into experiences that you would rather leave behind.   You are told “just get over it”, “man up”, or “move on” and can’t.  If it were that easy you would have done it by now. Therapy can evoke both hope and apprehension if past experiences have been less than satisfactory.   How do you know who to trust when so many people are saying they can help? Can you even be helped? I … Continued
- [Why I Do Somatic Psychotherapy for Trauma in San Diego](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/why-i-do-somatic-psychotherapy-for-trauma-in-san-diego/): Why Somatic Psychotherapy in San Diego?   I often hear from friends and clients they “can’t imagine doing my job all day, every day”.   They are curious why I decided to focus on Somatic Psychotherapy for Trauma.     The answer I used to give still applies- I find the brain and its capacity to heal endlessly fascinating.   However, as I continue to do my personal therapy and healing, I understand better why I am doing this work. I know that somatic psychotherapy for trauma is life changing.    I want to heal, I want to live life differently … Continued
- [Brainspotting: Somatic Therapy in San Diego](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/brainspotting-somatic-therapy-in-san-diego/): Brainspotting might not be all that new as a Somatic Therapy modality in San Diego, but it is a new modality in my practice.   For years I wanted to get trained, but was really busy getting certified in Compassionate Inquiry.   What I learned about attuning to clients and allowing my client to be with what comes up in CI, has made Brainspotting a very natural addition.      What is Brainspotting and How Does It Work?   Brainspotting is a very somatic based therapy that is helpful with not only trauma and PTSD, but stress, negative emotions, pain, creative … Continued
- [What is Somatic Therapy in San Diego?](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/what-is-somatic-therapy-in-san-diego/): Somatic therapy in San Diego is a holistic therapeutic approach that focuses on the mind-body connection to address psychological issues, trauma, and emotional distress. A somatic therapist looks at how trauma events affect the client’s beliefs, their ability to function, and how trauma is stored in the client’s body. The term “somatic” refers to the body, and somatic therapy emphasizes the importance of bodily sensations, identifying where in the body and how the body is experiencing trauma. The focus is on identifying dysfunctional beliefs and integrating bodily experiences into understanding and healing psychological wounds. For many clients this feels frightening due … Continued

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- [Childhood Sexual Abuse and Attachment Wounds](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/childhood-sexual-abuse-and-attachment-wounds/)
- [Podcasts](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/podcasts/): Welcome to Overcome Anxiety & Trauma Podcast Hello and Welcome, Brave Souls! Thank you for tuning in to our very first episode! I’m Shay, a licensed somatic trauma therapist practicing in California, and I’m deeply honored to have you here as we begin this healing journey together. Taking the step to listen to content about anxiety and trauma recovery shows incredible courage. I want you to know that you’re not alone in this process. As a licensed mental health professional specializing in somatic approaches to trauma and anxiety recovery, I’ve witnessed firsthand how our bodies hold the wisdom for healing—and I’m … Continued
- [At Home Neurofeedback](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/at-home-neurofeedback/)
- [Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapy](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/psychedelic-assisted-psychotherapy/)
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- [Beck Depression Inventory Confirmation](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/beck-depression-inventory-confirmation/)
- [Should I See A Therapist Confirmation](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/should-i-see-a-therapist-confirmation/): Thank You Talking to a therapist is a brave first step toward feeling better. Schedule a free 15-minute consultation with Shay. Healing is possible!  
- [Recognizing Anxiety: Symptoms and Steps to Take Confirmation](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/recognizing-anxiety-confirmation/): Recognizing Anxiety:  Symptoms and Steps to Take Confirmation
- [Good Faith Estimate](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/good-faith-estimate/):  Good Faith Estimate for Therapy Services **Provider:** Shay DuBois, License Number 1000049, Title Licensed Clinical Social Worker     **Practice Address:**1286 University Ave, #1020, San Diego CA 92103-3312 **Contact Information:** 858 321 6355, shay@overcomeanxietytrauma.com   Service Information This Good Faith Estimate provides an estimate of the cost of therapy services provided by Shay DuBois. This estimate is required by the No Surprises Act, ensuring transparency for self-pay and uninsured clients regarding potential charges.  **Estimated Rate per Session**: $265.00 (50-minute session)   Anticipated Services and Costs The number of sessions may vary based on individual needs and therapeutic goals. Below are potential cost … Continued
- [Should I See A Somatic Therapist](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/should-i-see-a-somatic-therapist/)
- [Becks Depression Inventory](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/becks-depression-inventory/)
- [Recognizing Anxiety: Symptoms and Steps to Take](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/recognizing-anxiety-symptoms-and-steps-to-take/)
- [ACES Trauma Assessment Form](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/aces-trauma-assessment-form/)
- [Brainspotting](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/brainspotting-in-san-diego/)
- [Interpersonal Neurobiology](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/interpersonal-neurobiology-in-san-diego/)
- [Somatic Experiencing in San Diego: Shay DuBois](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/somatic-experiencing-in-san-diego/)
- [EMDR Therapy San Diego: Trauma Healing with Shay DuBois](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/emdr-therapy-san-diego/)
- [Internal Family Systems (IFS) in San Diego: Shay DuBois](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/internal-family-systems-therapist-in-san-diego/)
- [Compassionate Inquiry](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/compassionate-inquiry-therapist-in-san-diego/)
- [Expert Somatic Trauma Therapy San Diego](https://overcomeanxietytrauma.com/somatic-trauma-therapy-in-san-diego/): Transform your life with Expert Somatic Trauma Therapy, a holistic way to heal trauma and anxiety at their roots.
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